Time Flies By

Fear.

One of my favorite quotes is “Don’t let fear hold you back when you should go forward.”  I know many of you have heard it before, but it’s something I continue ask myself every day.  A few weeks ago, I talked about courage and overcoming, but today, let’s shake it up a little, shall we?  From the same source as the above quote, comes another quote on my list of “Top Five Favorite Quotes” and all that comes with it.

“You can’t love people in slices.  You take them for the good and the bad - together”

To love whole heartedly, doesn’t mean you will always like the person, but you love them despite the imperfections.  It goes not just for the close ones in your life, or for the ones that you choose to keep within your sphere of influence, but to love yourself first!  You can’t love yourself in slices either.  Love your whole self.  I don’t spend my days pining about how I will never have the physique of a Barbie doll.  It simply isn’t who I am, and it’s not who I want to be either.  I love the person that I am.  I love the path I have chosen that is leading me towards the person I want to become.  I appreciate the journey I have been on thus far in becoming the person I am today.

Love yourself first.  If you can’t love yourself first, it will be much more difficult to allow someone to love you completely.  Remember, love is multiplicative.  I don’t want to marry my “better half.” Someday, I hope to meet and marry a man who is as whole a person as I am, but together, we can become a single unit.  A family is a single unit, made up of individual parts.  Love and allow yourself to be loved by others, but most importantly by yourself.

Sexy starts with you.  Love is multiplicative.  1 (man) x 1 (woman) = 1 (pair).

First in the head, then with the heart. 

Let’s Follow Through!

Happy Stay Sexy Thursday!
Being brave to take the first step is indeed, an act of bravery, courage, intestinal fortitude, etc. However, I have always known, and especially recently, have re-discovered that it’s only the beginning to an even more demanding and difficult obstacle ahead. Though worthwhile, taking that first step and getting the “go ahead” answer seems like a huge leap, but really, it’s only a tiny step towards an even greater challenge – follow through.

Not only is taking that first step incredibly important, it is the maintaining of that momentum to continue to move forward, complete the task or objective you had set out to conquer. Though there will be setbacks, being confident in the person you are, being resolute to why you chose to move forward, and that even when you feel like you’re at square one, you will never be there again. Remind yourself to keep your head up, eyes forward, and maintain the stay sexy attitude to: always make your best effort, seek to always find the good in yourself and in others, smile and love often.

Confidence must always continue to be nurtured to be maintained throughout our lives and even when we fall short, we must remember that “failure isn’t failure, if a lesson from it’s learned.” (bonus points if you know this reference). Sexy starts first in the head, then in the heart!

Brave Accusations

It's that time of the week again. Stay Sexy Thursday! This week I have been accused of being brave and courageous. I don't see myself that way, just willing to do what needs to be done despite the fear, and staying committed to the task. I guess that's courage, but I sure didn't feel all that courageous while doing it. ("it" being whatever needs to be done). Be courageous. Be encouraged. Be who you choose to be, and choose to be Awesome. Sexy starts within, and oozes out our pores. Courage: : mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty "Don't let fear hold you back when you should go forward." or in two short words "Not Scared." (you know this Ninja aka Kelly)"

Be Resilent

Resilience, buoyancy, enthusiasm, belief, trust, coolness, self-reliance, certain, sure, committed, firm, steadfast and poised. These are all words synonymous with, and/or complementary to the word - Confidence. They are at the nucleus of what “Stay Sexy Thursday” epitomizes. I know it’s late, I’ve been busy, but know here and now that when life sends me a challenge, I work hard to face it head on. Hey, I like a challenge as it makes me sweat a little and forces me to lengthen my stride.

“Be resilient in your effort to continue to improve and love yourself. Stay committed to keep your cool when faced with adversity. Do more than keep this belief and certainty locked inside yourself; share it with others with enthusiasm and buoy up those around you. Trust yourself to stay firm and steadfast in the wake of trials. Know with a surety that YOU are a child of God and are never alone. Sexy starts with you.”

Pep talk to self over.

Carpe Diem

Happy Stay Sexy Thursday - I'm tired, both physically and mentally. Living the dream, and probably parts of yours too. Raising the proverbial glass to the short, yet, undeniably profound words "Carpe Diem." So, after you drink from your proverbial glass of awesome, go out and pluck the life out of each day, just as Horace encouraged his mates. But before he said to pluck the junk out of each day, he declares "ut melius, quidquid erit, pati." That's what's up right there! Confidence begins with some small measure of confirmation in regards to something relating to you, and it builds, and when you get there, it sure was one heck of a ride. It IS much better to endure to whatever will be, as what will be is largely in part to the choices you make. Sexy starts first in the head, then with the heart. =D

Long for Love

Happy Stay Sexy Thursday!
At trivia night, there was a question about one of the characters from the movie "moulin rouge." After a brief discussion we decided that the person in question was responsible for two key lines in the film:
"But I know about art and love, if only because I long for it with every fiber of my being."

and of course

"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."

Let us long for love with every fiber of our being and let it give us hope that it's there for the taking. Let's give Love for all the different relationships we have in our lives. Love is multiplicative, so let's embrace opportunities to increase that capacity to do so. 

 

Sexy starts within us and then comes oozing out our pores. =D

Take Action

Happy Stay Sexy Thursday! It's a late post, but it's been a busy day! 

Several years ago, I made some big changes in my life.  I found myself in a sub-culture that I didn't understand, nor did I feel like I fit in.  It was a new life I had chosen and was not quite sure where I fit into this new world.  I felt like I was meant for something more, something different, something bigger, but what?  Finally, I realised that it was up to me to decide what my driving force was and what passions I wanted to pursue.

Take action in your own lives to work towards the things we want in life. It's okay to change course, or to decide on a new destination. A smart man I know once said "An organization is perfectly designed to get the results it gets." (Two points if you know the person that said this) If you don't like the output, change the input.

Sexy starts first in the head, then with the heart.