It's Green Where You Water It

I can already hear the scoffs coming in many directions as I prepare to tell about you about the origin of this week's "Stay Sexy Moment" and you know, that's okay.  I am a confident adult woman and no matter what anyone thinks, I can enjoy Justin Bieber along with everyone else, whether they want to admit it or not.  So here it is!

Several months ago, my friend and fellow goalie, Beast, were discussing how we had goals we were working towards.  There were a three categories:  Spiritual goals, social goals, and personal progress goals.  We used to meet every Monday morning at a coffee shop near my office and read scriptures, catch up on life, and discuss how our goals were coming along.  This weekly meeting was one of my favourite parts of the week.  As the weeks moved along we found that we were becoming successful in meeting our goals and when we fell short, we talked about what our focus was on at that time in our lives. 

One night, as we were gearing up for hockey class, she tells me, "you know what?  I was listening to the radio and a Justin Bieber song came on and a line in the song really stuck with me." I smiled, because I am quite the fan and waited to hear what gem she was going to share.  To my astonishment, it was indeed share-worthy and for some reason, all these months later, it's again on my mind.  Here it is:

But, the grass ain't always greener on the other side, it's green where you water it.

The last part is where the focus lies though.  "It's green where you water it." You, may choose to keep on looking for greener pastures, but sometimes, you just need to take the time to tend what's right in front of you and give it a chance to grow. 

Many people have crossed paths with me in life that I may not have had an instant connection with.  Whether they were casual encounters turned into friendships, or a friend-of-a-friend that "rubbed me the wrong way," or simply, there just wasn't that connection we seek.  However, over time, some of the people that would fit in the above listed categories, as well as others of a similar nature, are now wonderful and close friends to me.  There is a term I use for a person who may "improve upon closer acquaintance."  The term is:  grower.  Yes, that's right, a grower.

We've all had them.  A person that over time grows on us and whether it's just a person who becomes endeared to you, or someone that you simply hold in high esteem and love greatly, they're a grower.  As we are all rushing through life, and looking to get that instant satisfaction, or find the immediate value someone can add to your life before you move along, we often miss an opportunity to get to know someone amazing.  I am a child of God, and I believe we all are.  If we take the time to see the good, we'll find it.  Whether it's new friendships, or potential dating relationships, don't forget that sometimes, we just need to get past the first few awkward phases before we see what a person may have to offer and add to your life.  Don't miss out because you were impatient.

A rose doesn't grow and blossom overnight.  It takes time.  It must be planted, given proper light, and water so that it can receive and process nutrients.  Over time, it becomes and blooms into a beautiful rose, that had we not taken the time to water it, even when we couldn't see anything more than soil, we would never had the opportunity to appreciate its beauty.  

Stay Sexy Thursday is about an attitude.  They way you see yourself, they way you see others, and the way you share the good with those around you;  that is the key   This week's challenge is to look at your reflection in the mirror for three minutes before leaving your house for the day.  For those three minutes, tell your reflection about who you are and what you stand for.  If you're unsure, ask.  I am pretty sure you will surprise yourself  with all that you have to offer up in those 180 seconds.  Remember, it's not about conceit, it's being convinced.  

"It's green where you water it." So, start with you.  Sexy starts first in the head, then with the heart.  Say it.  Believe it.  Be it.