Modest is Hottest

Modesty

1:         freedom from conceit or vanity

2:         propriety in dress, speech, or conduct

Synonym:  Meek - enduring injury with patience and without resentment

There is a common misconception about modesty in dress*, as well as in how one conducts themselves from day to day.  This last week, several people have shared their concerns about modesty with their children, or had situations incur recently that made them stop and consider modesty.  Needless to say, I couldn’t help but think of Isaiah aka Captain Happy, and how he would always wear his “Modest is Hottest” sticker at church on Sundays.  It is my hope, that men and women alike have the opportunity to understand what it means to be modest.

To be modest in what we wear can become a convoluted conversation for many people.  As fate would have it, when many (particularly the younger generations, Generation X included) think of dressing modestly, they automatically assume “old lady” and unattractive outfits fill and cloud their mental vision of what it means to be modest.  This is a travesty for both genders, since simple elegance is something to strive for when choosing a dress to attend certain types of functions, and there is something about a Tuxedo that does wonders for any man.

To be confident and to be conceited are two different ways to conduct oneself.  To be modest and meek are not characteristics of a weak individual; they are symbols of strength and self-preservation.  To have the forte to be confident with whom you are; to respect those around you despite any social backlash, or injury you experience, and to continue to do so with resolution is to be held in high regard.

 Belittling, or cutting someone down to puff you up injures both the giver and the receiver.  Encourage one another.  Lift each other up.  Remind yourself and those you care about that “Modest is Hottest.”  Someone once encouraged me to “Be a woman of mystery.”   With social media being what it is, it’s become very easy for people to put it all “out there” for everyone to see and read.  Leave a little something for him/her to find later as you get to know people.  It’s always a pleasant surprise to be sitting talking to someone you think you have all figured out, and have them reveal something new and interesting.

Stay Smart.  Stay Sharp.  Stay Sexy.

 *Modest in Dress – what you deem modest is left up to your discretion and comfort level.  But Modesty, doesn’t mean we can’t still look attractive [sexy].